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I've been eating very raw for the last few years. I can see how far I've come, that these days I am quicker to listen to what my body craves and try to fulfill those needs. Like lately I keep hearing it call for "watermelon" and by golly, if I eat hardly anything but watermelon for a couple of days I'm fine with that.

I used to stubbornly admonish myself with rules like "three meals a day" and "You should eat whole wheat, it's good for you" and if I didn't feel so great after following such rules I didn't take  my physical and emotional response for what they were: the best indicators of what was actually good for me to be taking into my body.

Don't get me wrong, I still eat plenty of things that don't count as raw. I am on a constant ride through life messing up, bouncing back and fourth and in and out of raw. What keeps me feeling good about the whole thing is that gradually the bounce back to raw happens more quickly and for longer periods of time. If I mess up I just move on and don't look back.

Today I got a glimpse of how my emotional healing has kind of gotten sidetracked while my professional journey and my attempts to stay raw have overshadowed many other things. I've been grieving the loss of a work friendship that brought me a lot of joy and lightheartedness during a time of workplace transition and stress. I don't know what I did or said but this person has made it clear with a fierce and stone-like silence that they no longer want to be friends. It wasn't like we were friendly outside of work and it took me by surprise how deeply it hurt to be ignored.

I've been living with this disappointment for a couple of weeks (typical introvert not sharing what matters most to me!). I was hanging out with my son in the yard this evening and it suddenly occurred to me that, hey, the kid is like 16 now, maybe I should be telling him about it, and so I did. His response was "Mom, you are like one of the most caring people I know. If this person is choosing to treat you this way, that's their loss. You didn't do anything bad. Don't even go there." And with that, I felt peace and I felt loved again. So simple and yet I still, after a lifetime of withholding my feelings, forget to look for support. Thank you Isaac.

And afterwards I felt a very clear urge. It said "watermelon."

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Comment by Lucy Provost on July 12, 2013 at 12:20am

I love that picture, I have it pinned to one of my Pinterest boards :) Yes, things do seem to move here on RFR and people seem to get moving here as well. I feel more connected to the rest of the human race when I get to hear people share their perspectives and experiences here. Thanks for being here.

Comment by Troy Patrick Brown on July 11, 2013 at 9:20pm

Thanks, I hope everything is going well.Your story, I am sure many can relate and good luck and please feel free to share, because it helps.

Troy 

Comment by nathalie carles on July 11, 2013 at 9:00pm

Great cartoon....and great post!!!! Great people on this site that brings people that want to move along.

Love it.

Have a good end of the week everyone!

Comment by Janet Carol Ryan on July 11, 2013 at 1:38pm

well how's this for synchronicity? This little message showed up in my FB stream today....

Comment by Janet Carol Ryan on July 11, 2013 at 12:55pm

there is some wonderful healing going on here! Nathalie, I entirely agree with you. How we manage our endings and completions is important for love to thrive. And even when the process has not been as loving or conscious as we would like, we can lift it up with forgiveness. This morning in my meditation time, I affirmed in my heart (towards my friend who has now 'un-friended' me on FB) 'I freely and fully forgive you. I accept and appreciate the blessing that we have been to each other, and I now set you free to be fully who you are, as I do the same for me' ' May love and love alone be the energy flowing between us'  I know, that even if I do not see her again, this healing is assisting both of us to be complete and to move on.  Love & blessings to all.

Comment by Lucy Provost on July 11, 2013 at 1:00am

Good points. How you choose to end a friendship can make a difference. And it's better to be true to yourself than to remain in a situation that doesn't feel right anymore. I've been feeling a lot more a peace about my situation at work and it WAS such a gift to realize that someone - my son - was offering me support if I would only think to ask for it. That I realized it was a miracle to me.

Comment by nathalie carles on July 10, 2013 at 5:03pm

Nicely said Janet.

The only thing that I will point out is that if someone wants to end a friendship or even if someone wants to end a love story with someone else, let's say that it is absolutely normal, no doubt about it what is not right is the way to do it.

Behaving like a coward or a jerk or whatever is simply not acceptable. Some people would not even do that to their dog! Behavior is everything in life, especially with friends. That being said I am also OK with my friend who doesn't want to see me or whatever....again the only thing is how you handle this

Comment by Janet Carol Ryan on July 10, 2013 at 1:25pm

sweet story. I love that your experience of loss directed you to share and then opened up an avenue for your son to be loving, wise and supportive - that's a win in my book!  It's so interesting this theme of friendships ending - I also ended a friendship recently - it was painful, I struggled with myself about it and yet, intuitively I knew that it was the right thing to do. Perhaps it will morph into something new for my friend and for me. I remember the phrase that people come into our lives for a "reason, a season, or a lifetime"   my friendship with this person was for both a reason and a very long season (many years) but there came a cross roads that showed me that I have been putting up with certain behavior that no longer works for me. Life evolves and sometimes letting go of someone is the greatest gift. I trust that you will discover many blessings in the open space.

Comment by Lucy Provost on July 10, 2013 at 8:37am

Nathalie, you describe the stages of feelings that I have gone through so well, thank you. It's always comforting to realize that other people go through them as well. I've often wished I could be thicker skinned and just take the attitude that "it's their loss" but I often need a dose of that perspective from someone else (in this case, my son). Thank you for sharing your experience as well

Thanks Troy!

Comment by nathalie carles on July 10, 2013 at 12:29am

Cute ending.

I went through the same sort of phase. One of my best friend just one day decided we were not going to be friends anymore, she just didn't talk to me anymore, with no reason. She never really explained, just "out of my life"..... after 7 years of real friendship.

First you are taken by surprise, then you try to understand, then you think you've done something wrong, then it really hurts and after a while you think "she is the one that has a problem not me". Then, after 6 months of silence and avoiding me, she tried to come back and tell me she likes to talk to me again. I said that I never stopped talking to her but she didn't want to....but she has broken something, it will never be the same. People don't really understand what friendship is, that it takes more than what they think to be friends and when they realize it, it is too late.

I don't talk too much as well and I am fine that way, and I did go wrong in my diet...too much emotions for me I guess. But now I tell myself that no one should make me that way, it was a good lesson, it is always a good lesson. Even if sometimes, we shouldn't have to go through this. Why? Why do people hurt their friends?

In the end they loose and that's what we have to remember.

Glad you talk about relationship to your son and what a nice reply!!!!! So yes, watermelon!!!!!!

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