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 I have been doing pretty well lately.  I get up every morning  and go to the gym from 5=6 and I drink green smoothies for lunch and breakfast and a huge salad for supper.   Occasionally I will eat things  like special foods for events that are not raw but I am pretty picky and usually do not eat very much at all.

Yesterday I went to a restaurant with my children.  I usually just have tea or water and was planning that since I had a huge green smoothie right before I left.  My kids usually complain to me that I never eat  at the restaurant ( my kids are 16 and 27)  so I decided to eat.  It was not raw, I did not eat very much- even though it was all you can eat but I did eat some dessert.- which my son picked out for me

Right after I ate, he begin to talk to me about my diet and how  he was worried about me.  I had been sick with pneumonia about 4months ago but I am extremely healthy now.  He was talking about how I am occasionally not careful about my diet and how he would like for me to take better care of myself.  

Then my daughter started telling me the same thing.  I was so confused!  In my eyes, I am eating very well and taking very good care of myself.  I am 95 percent raw and I was just really confused.  I am still confused about it.

I am trying hard for it not to send me into a slump emotionally, but I am not used to my children doing that to me.  

Any suggestions or input?

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Comment by nathalie carles on December 7, 2012 at 8:26am

Bette, this is really true what you said : there should be no struggle connected with eating. Actually all problems start with that with food! Very well said!

Comment by Deborah Grissam on December 6, 2012 at 12:46pm

Amen Bette!!!

Comment by Bette Bliss Shaw on December 6, 2012 at 10:52am

It only bothers you if it might be true. For me, I had to take a real look a while back at what others were seeing, as real concerns.

I am now tweaking and have been for a while, to see what truly works for me.

Thing is, the answer is, there is no one answer. Chew that over. I have learned so much and  my eating is all different,   a whole new way and am a different person for it! There simply has to be no struggle connected with eating. Eating is to be enJOYed!

Comment by Wendi Grant on December 5, 2012 at 7:07am

I have been mia for awhile.....how long have you been raw or attempting raw?

If this is new to your family, they are probably associating the fact that you are drinking juice during the day, they think you are not eating enough.  They are probably still worried about your recovery from pnuemonia.  Hang in there.  When I first started attempting raw, my family was concerned.  NOW, when I am LESS raw (and more unhealthy) my hubby will actually encourage me to "get back to it".  He now sees the difference in ME when I eat better (raw).  Best of luck to you.  Sometimes it takes time for the results of RAW to be visible to everyone else.

Comment by Deborah Grissam on December 4, 2012 at 4:30pm

Right Nancy- i actually do not mind just sitting there sipping my tea or water.  I  always enjoy talking to everyone about what food they like the best-  Just laughing it off  is the best option!  When people say, " Aren't you eating?  Why aren't you eating ? etc!@  

I was listening to Raw Kristina the other day and she was going to some kind of family event with several generations, etc, and her sister begged her to think about eating- just to not call attention etc.  So what she did is that she called the restaurant before hand and explained her situation and then she just brought all her fruits and veggies  to the kitchen and asked the chef to arrange it and bring it all out with everyone's entrees.  She said that the chef was " delighted" to do that for her - might be worth it on those events where it is very obvious when you are not eating. 

Comment by Nancy Thelen on December 4, 2012 at 6:44am

Deborah, restaurants do the same to me plus I'm gluten free and that really throws a whammy into most of my eating out. I would love to have a soup and salad, but between the sodium and the gluten I usually can't. Some of the restaurants have offerings, but my kids prefer the chain ones, not my mom and pop vegan/vegetarian ones. We just have to laugh about it and not be out to please I guess. Good luck with everything and know you're not alone in this. 

Comment by Deborah Grissam on December 4, 2012 at 6:31am

So true LaTricia- I know that appreciate that I am eating well- they notice my green smoothies.  I think what was starting to bother my son was seeing me sleeping 24/7 when I had pneumonia for a month.  He was not used to seeing my sick and it kind of freaked him out.  His comments come from concern and I totally appreciate that.

 Nancy my kids usually complain when I don't eat at restaurants  - which I would not mind eating a little now and again- but every time I do, the next day I am swollen up from all the salt that is in restaurant food.  It is just not worth it.  

Comment by LaTricia E. Morris on December 3, 2012 at 6:21pm

I would simply supply them with some resources or information on the benefits of your eating preferences and explain to them that while you respect their concerns, it is best for each to find their own balance and the way of eating that best resonates with the wellbeing of the individual.

Definitely agree with Nathalie about being bombarded with false/sponsored information.

Some (a lot) people too are more bothered by others eating differently (particularly healthier) around them because it can trigger their own self-consciousness and spur convictions about their eating.  Some people take it as a way of saying "what you're eating is not good enough for me." and thereby take offense.  I know some people that are eating junk and know it but feel better about it when they can get someone else to join in it with them or share.

Maybe you could help them see that your eating is not just backed by your love for yourself but for your children as well.  My family appreciates that I eat well, in part because they know I am taking personal responsibility for my health and doing all I can to ensure that I can continue to take care of myself rather than doing what I want and setting myself in a position where they would have to take care of me in the future.

People are fed a lot of fear food to get them to eat as BIG industries from food to medicine would have them do.  If you know that your diet makes you feel and perform your best, that in itself should resolve any concerns and be a testimony to the wisdom in your eating decisions.  That is nothing to be in a slump about!

Comment by Nancy Thelen on December 3, 2012 at 12:42pm

Deborah,

I had the same thing from my daughter at Thanksgiving. When I sat down with my salad she practically screamed, "Is that all you're eating?". My son, who understands vegetarian/vegan/raw and is supportive, looked at her and said," She's eating in courses, " and my daughter with a little huff starting chowing down. I did eat a little of her squash casserole, some cranberry sauce and some mashed potatoes. I know just how you feel. If you're healthy and happy, don't let them change you. Eventually they will be curious about how you stay so healthy and slim. Good luck.

Comment by Deborah Grissam on December 3, 2012 at 12:42pm

Thanks so much for the responses!  I feel better reading your words of encouragement-  I was just not sure what they were talking about for sure.  Especially since to me, I have been doing pretty well for the last 2 months!

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