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I can't believe it has been over 2 years. So much has happened. 

It has been a very rocky 4 plus years.. My husband an alcoholic got to be too much to deal with. I dealt with the stress by eating.. Gained back all the weight I had lost and then some. I am just over 300 lbs now. I had stayed at 275 for 3 years. Then in October I asked him to move out. It took until 2 months ago for him to finally leave. It was a hard winter. More stress than I have ever dealt with. I gained 28 lbs. 

Now that the dust is settling. I have been thinking long and hard about my own addiction. Why is it that an alcoholic's way to recovery is to give up alcohol but a food addicts way to recovery is to eat in only in moderation? I have been pondering this. I am not addicted to anything that is healthy for me- just the things that are unhealthy- sugar, processed foods, fried foods. For some they can eat meat and dairy in moderation with an abundance of fruits and veggies- and be healthy- but for a food addict we can't get enough of meat and dairy- of course along with the other bad stuff. 

So what if the food addict were to cut those foods out completely as part of their recovery? Just as the alcoholic were to remove alcohol from their lives as part of their recovery. 

With that in mind,  today I woke up and went back to my vegan diet.. At least mid-raw, working up to high raw. The boys will eat vegan at home and whatever they want when not at home- they are not food addicts- I am, I will not force them to eat vegan all the time. 

I am 303 lbs.. Today is a new day. The start of my new life. My kids and I are moving home to CA to start fresh.. I can't wait.

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Comment by Penni on June 30, 2015 at 10:49am

I agree with Debra - great information you are sharing Nathalie. It just makes perfect sense!

Comment by Debra Garner on June 30, 2015 at 10:25am

Thank you Nathalie!! That was exactly what I needed to hear!

Comment by nathalie carles on June 30, 2015 at 1:55am

Hello Debra,

I read an Ebook lately about food addiction and the author was explaining that moderation with food addicts simply doesn't work.

Only complete abstinence from what triggers your addiction will work ( like drug addicts or alcohol, just get rid of it, period). And because if one is a food addict, one is certainly not addicted to kale, lettuce or leeks...but usually sugar and gluten that's what you have to get rid of for good. With a raw food diet it is easier to do (there is not much gluten...white flour etc...). He also suggested that one should write down the food that trigger the addiction (ex: milk chocolate, white bread, sweets, licorice? smarties? you name it... that kind of thing... and try to never eat them again).

He also gives this definition:

..." Administration of a drug to an addict will cause re-establishment of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance". (it is called the law of addiction)

I am not saying that it is easy makes sens (there a lot more to read of course).

Good luck on your journey and even if it is not a happy ending, I think that living in a toxic relationship doesn't help either. You're very courageous you're going make it!!!! And Summer is Raw Food time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Comment by Debra Garner on March 30, 2015 at 12:20pm

Thank you Mae

Comment by Mae Jardine on March 30, 2015 at 8:44am

Hello, Debra.  I remember you : )

Having read your Post & Comments, I have great respect for your courage to push forward.  I raised my children alone, with no child support, understand the pain of an alcoholic husband before and after the separation.  I'm so very happy for you that you have made your health a high priority at this time.  Your children are blessed that you are focused on how you can make changes that will respect each ones personal preferences with a doable healthy balance.   CA will be a great place to accomplish a fresh start and healthy balance.  Bright sunny days & fresh produce. 

God bless your family and your new start, Debra.  Hugs,

Comment by Debra Garner on March 29, 2015 at 11:43am

On a high note- I lost 8.4 lbs this week. And my body is thanking me for going back to a plant based diet. 

Comment by Debra Garner on March 29, 2015 at 11:41am

Thank you Penni. I agree with you 100%. Which is why I am working towards raising the money to move home to CA to be closer to family and friends. People who love us and will support us. The longer I stay here the more stressful it is. He wants me to take him back but he doesn't want to get help. It is like hitting my head against a brick wall. And I am not taking him back. I am not letting more stress back into my life. But it is a fine line I walk. He owns his own business- doesn't get a paycheck that a judge can withhold child support from. He could disappear if he wanted to - and yes he has done the research on how to do so. I am working night and day to become self sufficient so I don't have to count on him for any reason. I am just not there yet.

Comment by Penni on March 29, 2015 at 9:36am

So glad you stopped in here, Debra. Wow, you have had so much happening and I'm sorry about all the stress. Life gets complicated, but now you can begin to put more of the focus on YOU (and your kids). Removing the toxic offenders from our atmosphere is critical when making big life shifts. To me that includes relationships, certain foods/drinks, clutter and definitely the thoughts we are thinking and believing about ourselves and others.

I'm sending you my best & highest wishes for renewal, strength, wisdom, peace and progress. Please keep us posted on how you're doing when you can! xoxo - Penni

Comment by Debra Garner on March 25, 2015 at 7:58pm

Thank you Kathleen. I am on day 4 and feel great. I think we all have to evaluate our trigger foods to keep them in check. 

Comment by kathleen on March 25, 2015 at 7:37pm

Debra, great that you are back to the vegan ways. I think there is some truth in removing the addictive foods completely out of the diet. I need to do that with the dairy foods. As soon as I start with gelato, ice cream, or's all down hill. If I abstain from these completely, I'm ok. Good luck in CA with a fresh new start. You won't have to worry about your husband and you can start taking care of yourself. :)

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